I’ve had one friend who’s kept on me about taking care of myself. Everyone needs a friend that checks up on you that understands you. As another Trans* person, she understands some things better than my wife.
It’s been a while!!
Life is good, some challenges, but life overall is much better. My wife understands some more of what’s going on, I’m not out at work yet, and I’m only starting to think about “girl clothes”.
… and that “concerns” some of my friends. Less so than I used to deal with (largely because the noisiest have either shut up, figured me out, or blocked me for “not being that genuine”)…
Being Trans* isn’t about one thing – gender is a spectrum. I think transition for many of us is not only about HRT and learning “how to be a girl” – it’s about learning who we’re supposed to be.
We learn that we’re not just a girl, and not just who society wants us to be – but who we should have been.
Society tramples even CIS people in it’s effort to push us all into nice boxes – cogs to make the mechanism of civilization work, with zero concern for who we are. That’s part of the struggle. It’s something I have serious issues with among Trans* people – too many of us try to fit into ANOTHER box. Too many try to force others to fit into their political agenda.
Transition is about FREEDOM….
And I’m all about Freedom.